Expert explains why putting a crying child on Santa’s lap for a photo is never okay – Daily Mail - http://maxmoneyonline.co.za | make money fastDecember 14, 2018 12:09 am
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And while ‘fail’ photos of kids crying mid-shot are shared by thousands of amused parents on an annual basis, experts say there’s nothing funny about them.
‘Just because we love to see the pictures, doesn’t mean it’s worthwhile.’
Australian parenting expert and father of six Dr Justin Coulson (pictured)
He explained part of the problem was parents who pushed their children to do things they felt uncomfortable were likely to override their child’s needs in other areas too.
‘So they could actually be setting up a dangerous pattern that’s been shown at Christmas with the Santa photos but actually happens all the time.’
Dr Coulson noted while one-off occurrences of this nature didn’t appear to impact on a child’s development, parents who are consistently pushy can set up a belief in a child that their needs and wants don’t matter.
‘Parents who consistently disregard their children’s fears, anxieties and feelings rob their children of agency.
‘They increase the likelihood that their child will feel as if he or she doesn’t matter or belong and they run the risk that this type of consistent behaviour will lead to genuine long-term psychological challenges.’
‘We make a big deal about teaching children about body boundaries and about body safety and about consent,’ he said.
‘We teach kids this stuff from such a young age, then we go and completely ignore it at Christmas time.’